Always Standing with You… And Yet Apart
When I hear severe details about someone’s past, I have learned to filter the information. I do this to minimize my ideas about the severity. So…
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We Have to Learn to Accept Help When It Is Available
Accepting help when it is available is an important lesson that everyone has to learn. But it happens at different times for everyone…. I was on…
In Defense of Psychotherapy
“Cut them loose!” my sister tells me. She has just learned that I continue to see some clients for over 10 years. And she’s horrified. As…
Night Driving
Clients coming into therapy can’t see how their life can improve — they wouldn’t be here if they could! They come because they can’t see anything…
Knowing What to Say
I had to think of something to say. Some sort of answer to what she had just shared with me, cuz she was going to make…
Charging for a Late Cancellation – is it Fair?
A client quit therapy last night because I charged her for a late cancellation. She felt I wasn’t “fair.” I like for clients to get their…
When is the Right Time to End Therapy?
Most people will come to therapy the first time as long as they have a predetermined end date to it. They pluck a time frame out…
Developing a Positive Body Image
To heal negative Body Image and feel good about your body, it isn’t necessary to change your body. Instead it involves unlearning your beliefs about your…
Tips for Money Management in the New Year
The new year is a great time to clarify the vision of your life—your ideal lifestyle that reflects your values, your family situation, and other factors…
Come to the Party!
I am fortunate that I have the honor and privilege to love in many ways—through cooking, through my work, through my relationships, and now through my…
Dysfunctional Parents
It seems psychologically trite to ‘blame’ who we become on our parents. But we grew out of them. We lived in a world they were in…