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Sometimes I am too tired to do battle with their bubbles of denial. Sometimes I can barely sit near them in those webs of rationalizations they…

We’re taught from a young age that some thoughts and feelings are good and some bad. Some are acceptable, while others are not. That we shouldn’t…

A therapist friend of mine referred a couple to me for marital therapy. Recently, they confided in him that they don’t know who I am. They…

One of the first tasks of psychotherapy is learning the language of feelings. Years ago, I used to joke that my own therapist didn’t listen to anything…

We tend to think of the choices we’ve made as either-or. Yes or no. Good or bad. I prefer to think of them in a different…

Will you let me in to see your tears? Your pain? Your disappointment? Will you let me see how badly your heart has ached and for…

In coming to see me, people have to choose therapy. I don’t choose them — they choose me. Sometimes, however, clients will cut off their therapy…

Each of us has numerous layers of defended postures concealing our authentic self. The number is different for everyone. And so is how the layers present themselves,…

You’re thinking about starting psychotherapy, but feeling a little bit scared. That’s understandable.  After all, you wouldn’t be considering therapy if you didn’t have some dark…

in the dark caverns we search, we seek. down to the bottom, the tributaries. the wonderment is down there, and so are creepy crawly things.  we…

My job is to let you have enough control to feel safe. I am a passenger in the vehicle you’re driving.  You will take me to…

From where does hope grow?  The twinkle in old ladies’ eyes? From blue cotton candy? From bears in the woods? From grasses watered by rains? From…