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Abraham Maslow believed that if a person’s basic needs were met, then they could strive for self actualization. It is a miracle of our times that…

When folks first come into therapy, there are more unresolved issues than there are completed ones. That means, at first, there may be more “negative” feelings…

Let’s talk about the struggle of coming to therapy and knowing you must face things when you don’t want to. It’s hard. Often painful. Very deep…

We build fortresses, never allowing another to care about, see, remember, or know us. Connection, we’re sure, is unsafe.   So letting the therapist be a…

Life is short — very, very short. Time passes quicker than anyone expects, and most of us don’t really notice it whirling by… until we look…

There are times I’ve been desperate When I walked in somewhere for help   And times I slipped in the side door While I continued to…

New clients (the virgin therapy folks) blow in from what seems like nowhere. What prompts them to start the journey?   Usually they feel desperate and are…

“I’m burnt out,” we tell our friends. And, to anyone who will listen, we repeat our story. “My life is a mess. I’m tired of it.”…

  we are janitors cleaning up others’ messes.   we are plumbers wading through swamps of toxicity: child abuse stories, alcoholism, violence, abandonment.   we are…

When I was an undergraduate, I studied Anthropology and Psychology. Both fields were equally fascinating to me, so I double majored. However, there isn’t much you…

Learn why jokes about therapy tend to miss the point of counseling and the job of the therapist in helping people through their problems. Sometimes I…

Many people fear therapy because they worry about what feelings and traumas they will uncover.   I completely understand these worries. And it’s true that therapy isn’t…