What is therapy?

What is psychotherapy?
In psychotherapy, or "talk therapy", the therapist and the client create a therapeutic alliance. This is a relationship where the therapist helps you gain better ways to handle your problems. Sometimes the therapist will listen, sometimes they will talk and give guidance. Each session is an opportunity for you to explore new ways to look at your life, and new methods to help yourself and make improvements in your life.  

In our modern era, it is socially acceptable to reach out for help for mental and emotional problems, so it doesn't usually mean you are mentally ill if you attend therapy. Some people do seek out therapy because of longstanding childhood issues they are hoping to get relief about. Many people come to therapy for very specific problem they want help with, or just because of the stresses of a too busy lifestyle. Some come to therapy for marital difficulties, or for an overall feeling of depression or anxiety. The Positive Self Center believes that as conscious human beings we are all seeking understanding and betterment. We all have wisdom and deserve to have inner peace, serenity, self-love and freedom.   



Could I benefit from therapy?

Do you feel…

  • frustration in your relationships?
  • like others take advantage of you?
  • that it's never your turn?
  • you give more to others than they give to you?
  • obligated to others, or responsible for them?
  • you are alone and without support?
  • difficulty asking others for help, and allowing others to help you?
  • difficulty finding people to support you the way you support them?
  • like you don't feel loved by anyone? Like you don't feel that you trust anyone?
  • you want more depth in all your relationships?
  • you are unclear about the impact of your childhood experience on your current life?
  • you can't resolve things with your parents and don't understand why you react to them the way you do?
  • you have tried to help yourself but nothing seems to help?
  • you know what to do to change yourself, but can't follow through?
  • that no matter how hard you try, you can't seem to make self improvement stick?
  • you don't know what you want to do with the rest of your life?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, then you would likely benefit from therapy. With over 20 years of experience, Positive Self Center is able to help you let go of what isn’t working and start to explore new options. We strive to help you on your recovery journey to heal past wounds, clear up unsatisfying patterns and habits of the present, and move forward to embrace innate wholeness, possibilities and potential.

All of us face "rough patches" in life. Positive Self Center gives unbiased clarity and feedback. Here we will learn about your situation and tune into your unique struggles to help you out of them. With our careful guidance, we help you untangle the conflicts inside of you.

Will therapy work for me?
There is never a guarantee for therapy. However, many people make significant and profound changes in their lives and feel that therapy has benefitted them. Sometimes it only takes a few sessions, sometimes longer. It may not be suitable for everyone, but research and clinical experience shows that if people are motivated to change and stay open to the process, therapy proves to be very beneficial.  

What if this is my first time in therapy?
Positive Self Center congratulates you! Asking for help is not easy and you have taken the first brave step toward living the best version of yourself. Often people reach out for help during a down period in life, so making the phone call/email contact to start therapy can be difficult. Perhaps you normally cope very well with life, but a few things have stretched your coping skills lately. Maybe your children are leaving home, your spouse or parents are ill, or trouble at work or home has put a strain on your patience. Whatever your reason is for reaching out, we can help. Most people find that beginning therapy is not nearly as frightening as they imagined.  

Getting the most out of therapy

Will therapy work for me?
There is never a guarantee that therapy will work for everyone. However, research and clinical experience shows that if people are motivated to change and stay open to the process, therapy is very beneficial.    

Here are some suggestions to help you enrich and speed up your self-discovery and therapeutic journey:
Be gentle with yourself. Practice loving kindness to yourself. Therapy is a process, so lower your expectations about how long change should take. We actually grow faster when we are patient and when we allow ourselves to go slowly. 

If you actively participate and put more energy toward your therapy, you will receive more out of the experience. Become a student of personal growth and change. Read on the topic. It will help you to gain awareness. Be accountable for yourself. Show up to your therapy appointments even when you don’t feel like it or feel you have nothing to talk about. Ask for feedback from loved ones. Tell your therapist if you don’t like something they did or said. Ask questions. Keep a journal and start to reflect about your feelings both in and out of sessions. Be mindful of your unique response to things, and be aware of what types of situations or people upset you, feel safe to you, or are uncomfortable for you.

Connect With Others
Seek out friends, acquaintances, or neighbors who also want to change and grow and let go of people who cannot support and accept the new you. Be open to support groups like 12 step meetings, church groups, etc. These can really speed up recovery. It is often easier to see our own issues and solutions when others put a voice to them. You are not alone. Millions of others just like you want to heal and grow, and are actually seeking ways to do so. Self-help is the largest selling category of books by a long shot. Find your compatriots!

Cultivate Hope or Faith in Whatever Method Suits You
If you don’t feel hopeful, speak to your therapist about it. Your therapist can carry the hope for you until you can do it yourself.

To schedule an appointment please call (248) 645-5960 or request an appointment online.

Be kind, for everyone is fighting a hard battle. —Ian MacLaren