Families and Relationships
When you think about your past, do you...
- feel unresolved about your childhood?
- not remember much of your childhood but have a hunch it may impact your current life?
- not like to think back, or when you do, you have mostly negative memories?
- feel embarrassed by your siblings or upbringing?
- have complicated feelings toward your parents and/or siblings?
In your present life do you...
- feel alienated from your family?—or the opposite—do you feel responsible or obligated to family members?
- feel alone because you don’t have close relatives or friends that live nearby?
- feel misunderstood or unappreciated by your family?
- have grown children that have pulled back from you?
- find yourself acting in ways that you promised yourself as a child you wouldn’t do?
Everyone longs to feel closely connected to others, and most of us look to our family for these connections. Humans all need to feel bonded to others, to feel that we matter to others, to know that others care about us, and keep track of us. However, for some people, family doesn’t quite give us that warm, fuzzy feeling. We may feel criticized, unaccepted, or even unloved by our original family.
Even though many parents are not perfect (no one is), deep inside, most parents want the very best for their children. Most people are limited in psychological resources to provide that very best for their children, or circumstances may have conspired against you receiving the very best.
This is a unique time in history when people can seek resolution for longstanding family dysfunctions because this is a time free of the stigma for seeking help. This is your chance to grow and heal beyond your parent’s limitations. Embrace a path of recovery for yourself that your parents couldn’t model for you because they didn’t have opportunities for healing. This is a wonderful time to start!